How to know if your marriage is dangerously off-track

Life happens! Sometimes in a marriage, we lose the excitement of being married due to the demands of the “every day.” Here at Fab Wives, we try to highlight the fact that being committed to a lifetime of love and marriage starts with making your marriage a top priority. Keeping your marriage at the very top of your priority list will assure your marriage never goes off track. But sometimes, we’re so caught up with life, we don’t even realize our marriage is off track to begin with! Here are seven signs your marriage is off track, and three simple ways to get it back!

You’re not sleeping together. He’s on the couch; you’re in the bed. Chances are this is the result of an emotional disconnect.
You’ve lost interest in your spouse’s personal happiness. When you could care less about the things that interest your spouse outside of your marriage, chances are your marriage is a bit off track.
You’re communicating through the kids. This is usually a sign your marriage is WAY off track. When you consistently prefer to handle most of the communication through the kids, you’re usually trying to avoid dialogue with your spouse and of course that leads to larger issues.
You can go weeks without sex. Sex and intimacy are key to the success of a marriage. If you two are willing and able, it should be going down. Now I am not going to act like it goes down every day at my house because the way my energy levels are set up, that’s just not feasible, BUT I certainly can’t go weeks without it. Not only does a girl have physical needs, but I also need to feel emotionally connected to my husband on a very intimate level. If you don’t have that need, it could be the result of an emotional disconnect.
You don’t care to stroke each others’ ego. I personally need to hear from my husband how beautiful I am and how grateful he is to have me, and he needs to hear how proud I am to have him as my protector, provider, husband and leader. When you don’t feel the need to stroke each others’ ego – that’s a huge red flag!
You’re going a full day without simple communication. I don’t care how busy you are. If you’re two working individuals, most days, you feel the need to chat or briefly text with your husband at some point during the day. I actually drive my husband crazy with this. “Did you hear Drake’s new diss record? What did you think about Donald Trump’s recent tweet?” LOL! Hey, what can I say. I like chatting with my hubby!
Number seven is a big one and you have to be perceptive to figure it out. Are you doing all the talking? When my marriage was off track (and I mean WAYYYY off track — Click here to read exactly how off track it was: The Irony of Infidelity), I realized my husband and I really weren’t communicating. I was talking, and talking, and talking non-stop! I was neglecting his needs and wants and making it all about myself. I was beyond consumed with the “every day.”

I want that old thing back.

Here are 3 strategies for getting your marriage back on track.

I don’t care how cliche you find this statement….DATE YOUR SPOUSE. Date nights are the BEST way to reconnect with your spouse. No excuses. I live 700 miles away from the nearest family member and I date my spouse. We take one day off per quarter, play hooky and spend the day together. We reserve one night per week during the school year to have uninterrupted time alone together as well. Of course, the kids try to block, but we’ve learned to not get suckered into those cute little “please can we stay up for 5 minutes longer” rants.
Cook together at least once per week. Pick out a recipe and make it happen. Cooking together requires communication and team work. It’s a great way to connect with each other
Simply ask the question, “How can I be a better wife to you?” If he doesn’t reciprocate the question, don’t sweat it. Men are different and don’t really enjoy being put on the spot.

I’m no expert and am consistently working on my marriage, too! What did I miss? Please tell me! I read the comments and apply all feedback to making my marriage great, too. What are some other signs and strategies for keeping your marriage on track? Comment below.

~Rhea

2 Comments

Tikila on September 16, 2016 at 10:45 am

Omg! I needed to hear this! Thank you for being open and honest and sharing your tips! After 17 years, it’s hard to keep it ALL together! Favor and Blessings!

Rhea on September 18, 2016 at 7:16 pm

Thanks Tikila! 17 years is awesome. It’s hard work, but I am sure you can attest to the fact that its so worth it.
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How to know if your marriage is dangerously off-track

I want that old thing back.

Here are 3 strategies for getting your marriage back on track.

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