Admittedly, I am a bit of a packrat. I keep stuff. Lots of it! I mean, how do I know that one day I won’t need that 1999 receipt from Taco Bell or the box that my pager came in? For all, I know Radio Shack may do a recall and require the original packaging! I like to think of my method as “organized confusion”.
My better half sees organized confusion from a different lens. According to her, “you keep your crap everywhere and everything has a place that it should go”! Recently, she purchased me cubes to put my stuff in. In my opinion, my nightstand is all the same and much easier to locate stuff in, but what do I know?! In my defense, I am a creative and we have been known to literally let things fall where they may!
After nearly 20 years married, I’ll admit I’ve gotten somewhat better. The beautiful thing about being married to the right person is knowing they bring something different to the table. It creates balance in the home. For example, I don’t mind washing clothes but she doesn’t mind folding them. So we balance each other!
As previously stated, I’ve learned that everything has its place, including keys. My keys would be everywhere and I would have a problem finding them! My wife decided to remedy this situation by purchasing a hook system that I would place the keys on upon arriving home. It was a battle at first because this was a foreign practice to me. But over time, after repetition, I finally started using the key hooks! Now, I bring it to her attention when her keys are not there! Ohhhhhh sweet vindication! (once a quarter)! Lol
Tip:
When you know to your core that your husband really loves you and wants nothing more than to make every day better than the last, he’ll change for you! I’ll repeat that! Your husband will change if he is really about you! Now granted, this is not an overnight process but over time he can and will have a desire to do so! As we get older, we evolve. Some of the mindsets and ways of my 20’s are long gone, never to be revived. There is a stigma attached to women always saying they want their man to change or that she will change him. This will NEVER happen! You cannot change anyone! Free will is the beauty of life! Even if you think you changed him, you are sadly mistaken because the only thing that happened is that he gave you his will. Change is a process because old habits die hard. I have a list of things that have changed over the years because my wife wanted me to. Not because she defeated me, or that I am a weak man, but because we change for each other. Here’s a question for you to ponder while you read. Do you change for him? More than likely, he wants you to respect him more – change. He wants to have sex more – change. He wants you to stroke his ego more – change.
Reciprocity is the cornerstone of any great marriage
Change never happened through nagging, however. It only took place when I made my mind up and there were solutions in place conducive for it. There is always a way to say something to your husband to get a reaction out of him or to come to a solution with him, pick one. If you know him, you’ll know what to say! So if you want your husband to change given the right environment, available solutions, and his true heart to please you it will take place! Did I mention, your husband will change for you?
Peace
