Retreat, Surrender.. Don’t sweat the small stuff

Ladies, we’ve ALL been there. You and your hubby get dressed for a special evening. You put on that special perfume he adores.  Followed by those special pumps that drives him wild. You’re getting ready to hit the town and out of nowhere 5,4,3,2,1….. someone brings up something or asks the wrong question resulting in the once specially orchestrated evening swerving out of control.

Can you relate? Well beloved, in these instances we literally have 4.2 seconds to make a game time decision.  What do you do?

And relatively speaking it’s all small stuff. 10 years married my husband and I learned to fight and communicate fairly around year 5. We learned to fight the issues and not each other. After realizing we were losing valuable time on insignificant arguments –  we HAD to adjust.  Like those arguments that started off like a mist of smoke, but then become a 4 alarm blaze.  Those arguments about who said what? Who forgot to say what? Whose fault we were late? Whose tone was off.. I refer to them as Trivial pursuits.

Will you really remember them in 3mths, 6mths, or even 6 years? Of course not.  These distrACTions  deter you from loving, enjoying, nurturing, and supporting your relationship. You end up spending more time in your emotions than in the moment.I have a challenge for you – quite simply, Don’t sweat the small stuff.  Determine your personal mental gauge of what you react to realizing not everything should set you off or rile you up.

As women we create the energy and mood of our homes. We truly have that much power and resilience.  It’s all about tone and timing; intentions and interpretation. We can deliver messages to solicit change in our mate versus the need to be right in that particular moment. We can build him up instead of tearing him down.Plus after all the effort you put into that special moment with your hubby the only reaction you want is a positive one, leading to more priceless moments.