Spoiler alert!
If you’ve seen the movie Get Out, you may not ever look at tea cups the same again lol! After the main character is hypnotized he goes into the “Sunken Place” which renders him alive, fully aware but unable to communicate. On command or by a trigger he could be taken back to that place in an instant.
This had me thinking. In marriages all over the world, husbands and wives without any notice, over the smallest things, find themselves unknowingly falling into the sunken place.
It could be a hurtful comment, a simple disagreement that got out of hand or simply a misunderstanding on someone’s part. Being in the sunken place is one of the worst places that a marriage can be. Because just like in the movie, you see everything going on, but you feel as though you are helpless to do anything about the situation. Everything begins to spiral out of control and you are nothing more than a helpless bystander.
The one thing that gives us the advantage over the main character in the movie is that we are not hypnotized but are free will creatures that have the opportunity to make sure we stay out of this toxic place!
My tip for today is communication
Fabwives, one thing you need to know about your husbands, is that they are pretty simple. Not dumb, but simple. Truth be told, some of the things that you think we should know we don’t! And we may not know because you have not communicated it to us. I speak with a lot of couples and one of the biggest issues is that wives think their husbands know something that may have never been communicated. That’s not fair! We need to know so that we can stop the behavior or make adjustments to make our relationship better. It’s the same as your boss wanting you to do something that he’s never told you but wants to hold you accountable. How does that make you feel? That’s how we feel when something happens that we never knew about.
So going forward, over communicate what you want and expect from your husband so that way he knows! It will open up dialogue to create a tighter bond!
Peace
Damian Johnson | Marriage is Real | Instagram @marriageisreal
